Just a Quick Note

I just wanted to talk today to fill you all in on some things that are going on.

The site was hacked for, I believe, the 3rd time this year.  We have figured out what the problem is (the theme and one of the apps within it) and are completely changing the layout for the site so this doesn’t happen again. I apologize if you haven’t been able to get on the site or if you got a virus off of the site. Thank you to everyone that emailed or sent messages telling me about the virus.

I also wanted to thank everyone that voted for Multiples and More in the Circle of Moms Top 25 Moms of Multiples Contest! Multiples and More finished in 10th place which is leaps and bounds higher than last year. I cannot fully express how excited I was to see us in 10th place.

While I have your attention, I also want to let you know that next month I will be gone for a week on vacation (yahoo!). Because my vacation falls during the third week, which is normally photo of the month, I will be bumping up the submission deadline to the Tuesday before. I’ll remind everyone on Facebook and Twitter. Also, the lovely Erin Davis will be your go-to person while I am away. She will be on Facebook and Twitter to answer any of your questions. I’m planning on checking in at some point while I’m away, that is if Scott will let me anywhere near the computer lounge.

Multiples and More has been like my 3rd child for the past 3 years and I’m so excited to see how it is growing and to meet all of you and your families! I’m always looking for feedback and story ideas, so feel free to send them to me at multiplesandmoreblog@yahoo.com

Thanks again for a fabulous 3 years and for helping Multiples and More get to #10 in the Top 25! Have a great weekend everyone!

Multiple Moments

There was a teen suicide in a nearby community.  The family was understandably devastated.  The friends were distraught.  The school was saddened.  The community was shaken at its core.  The very place that their children were to feel safe was the place that they were at the most risk.

I involuntarily started recalling moments through the Crazies’ short lives that would replay if I were to lose one of them.  Morbid, I know, but it shook me and my brain reacted in inexplicable ways.

I couldn’t help but put myself in that mother’s shoes, just for a moment (to stay is way too painful), and seek a glimpse at the deepest empathy.

I’d like to share a few of the moments, bad and good, that came to attention during these difficult days…

  • Getting in the car to leave the hospital and sobbing the entire way home.  I was petrified of everything…the other drivers, my abilities as a mother, the fact that I didn’t know what to do with ONE newborn much less TWO, changing diapers, those ugly belly buttons…you name it, I cried over it during that car ride.  Then I got out of the car and started my life as a mother.  It’s what we do…we move forward.
  • Double infant carriers slamming against my recovering-sciatic legs over and over again…not knowing if I could make it up a full flight of stairs with both of them (and my pelvic floor intact), but doing it anyway and feeling GREAT about the fact that neither Crazy went tumbling down.
  • Their first smiles.
  • Seeing them enjoy each other for the first time rather than just laying on the floor next to each other.
  • Listening to them babble to each other in their cribs…even though I wished desperately that they would sleep.
  • Instantly sweating when one would wake up from a nap b/c if one woke up, the other way sure to follow.
  • The first time that one of them got sick and realizing that it was inevitable that the other one would surely follow.
  • Watching them crawl backwards, under furniture, and knowing that they just wanted to move forward to me more than anything.
  • Pulling up…those little fat bottoms pulling up on furniture was the best thing ever.
  • Graduating to sippy cups.
  • Baby food…ugh, baby food.
  • Watching an EMT tech carry my limp son across my front lawn.
  • The first day of preschool.
  • Bare feet on the grass and how much they hated it.
  • Catching snowflakes in their mouths, eyes, nose, etc.
  • Our first bloody head injury.
  • Sibling rivalry at its finest…when they’re both at the same development level, reasoning goes out the window and you just do your best.
  • Baths…ah, baths…
  • Our first family trip to the aquarium and having such a great time.  No one fell into the shark tank and we actually enjoyed being together rather than thinking about schedules, snacks, getting hurt, etc.
  • Watching both of the Crazies fall down the stairs more than once…hated those moments.
  • Listening to the Crazies voice the fact that they are “best fwiends” and “on da same team.”
  • Not being able to rouse a sick child delirious with fever.  One of my most helpless moments.
  • Watching my son throw his Finn McMissle during our walk, losing his feet out from underneath him, landing straight on his chin, and screaming that scream.  I thought there would be a pool of blood when I picked him up, but there wasn’t.  He was screaming like crazy, so I picked him up and lugged him home.  The hole time, Hailey  was behind me, carrying Finn McMissle telling me that she’ll “take care of Matt and be his best fwiend.”  She really does love him after all.

 

I’m not writing this to take some random walk down Memory Lane, but to let us all stop for a moment to focus on what’s really important.  We’re all rushing around this world trying to get to this and make it to that, but we’re missing so much in the process.  The little moments that occur are surely something worth discussing with each other, right?

I wonder what little moments this girl’s parents discussed while planning her funeral.  I wonder which moments they were reminded of by her three surviving sisters.  I wonder what moments she would have wanted memorialized.  We’ll never know.

Get your multiple moments down as often as possible.  Talk about them with your kids.  Reminisce with your husband.  They’ll be the most important moments of all (even if some of them were torture to live through).

 

What were some of your BEST and WORST?  What will you remember when you’re further down the road.

Follow Me Friday

Today is the last day of the 3rd Blog Anniversary Party, are you as sad as I am that it’s over? One of my favorite things about the site is that it connects all of us to each other, and introduces all of us to so many different blogs. Today is all about our blogs! Below is a Linky for you to sign in with your blog and then we can all hop from blog to blog “meeting” each other. If you would like to meet some new bloggers, and gain new readers for your own blog, simply sign to the Linky, and click on the other blogs that are linked up. When you get there, follow them (hence, Follow Me Friday). Remember to leave a comment when you follow them so they can follow you back!

One of my favorite things about the site is that it connects all of us to each other, and introduces all of us to so many different blogs. Today is all about our blogs! Below is a Linky for you to sign in with your blog and then we can all hop from blog to blog “meeting” each other. If you would like to meet some new bloggers, and gain new readers for your own blog, simply sign to the Linky, and click on the other blogs that are linked up. When you get there, follow them (hence, Follow Me Friday). Remember to leave a comment when you follow them so they can follow you back!

Your Favorite Posts!

There have been a lot of amazing posts this past year and I cannot believe we were all able to get the nominations down to 4 in each category.The winner of each category is in bold, and in some cases there was a tie.

Your top four favorite posts from our experts were:

Tips for Discussing Sexual Abuse with your Children

Speech Development in Twins

Discipline with Multiples

What to do when your kid isn’t invited

Your top four favorite guest posts were:

When the scan reveals a high risk of Down Syndrome by Multiple Mummy

Flying with Kids by Janice of Mommawords

The Very Moment I knew by Andrea of The Mays Twins

Julia’s Response to the NYT article on Two-Minus-One Pregnancy

Your top four favorite Moneywise MoM posts were:

How to Save Money on Diapers

Preparing for Multiples

Extreme Couponing

12 Ways to Save in 2012

Your top four favorite recipes from Multiples in the Kitchen were:

Breakfast in a Cup

Fruit Skewers

Apple Strudel

Ice Cream Cake

Your top four favorite posts from Rebecca’s Corner were (and actually all four posts had the same number of votes, so they all are the winner):

M.O.M.T.F.O.Z.

Can’t You Just BOTH Be Bad At The Same Time???

Maybe we made a mistake

I gotta admit…

Your top four favorite crafts from Crafting with Kids were:

Fall Banner

Mother’s Day Art

Halloween Rock Painting

A Gift for Dad

Thank you to everyone that nominated and voted for these posts! Also, a HUGE thank you to the people that contributed to these posts!

Tomorrow starts the 3 days of giveaways, so be sure to check back often to see all of the goodies that are going to be given away!

Welcome to the 3rd Anniversary Party!

Welcome to the 3rd Blog Anniversary Party! I cannot believe it has been 3 years since the site started! The site has undergone quite a few changes in the past year, and I hope you love all of them! The party starts today and goes all the way through Friday!

 Here’s the outline of events:

Monday: The Best of Multiples and More! Your favorite posts will run today. Thank you to everyone that voted for their favorite posts!

Tuesday, Wednesday AND Thursday: Get ready for some awesome giveaways! There are 19 confirmed sponsors and possibly more to come that are going to giveaway amazing prizes. There will also be a Linky for you to link up your own giveaways! The Linky widget will go up on Tuesday morning and will be linked in all the posts until Thursday so be sure to check back often! All giveaway winners will be announced the following Monday.

Friday: Meet our MoM’s and Dad’s Day! There will be a Linky set up for everyone to sign in and the goal is for everyone to hop around all of the blogs and leave some love! Plus, it’s a great way to find a new blog to read!

I cannot wait to get this party started! Don’t hesitate to leave any questions that you may have in the comment section!

Vote for your favorites!

Monday will be the first official day of the 3rd Blog Anniversary Party! Can you believe it’s been 3 year? Me either! Monday will be a fun look back on your favorite posts from the year. Below are some polls with the posts that are nominated (including the links to the posts). Be sure to take a moment and vote. You can vote for 2 posts in each category. You can also vote once a day, in each poll, until Sunday at noon (EST).

 

Who’s ready to get this party started?!