It’s a question that moms of multiples get on a regular basis. Since the answer is not exactly simple, I usually just shrug, smile, and say “I just do it!”. Which, to a degree, is the truth. Most days, we just get up, and start business as usual; feed the kids, get everyone dressed, clean the kitchen after breakfast, play with the kids, get them down for naps, straighten up the house, make phone calls, do laundry, pay bills.. you know the drill. There’s not always a lot of time to think about things, but yet they have to get done. Hence the phrase “ you just do it”.
For posterity, I thought it might be a worthwhile venture to break it down a little more. I would have loved for someone to give me a detailed answer before I had my babies, because I wasn’t so sure that I was going to be able to do it. I had never even changed a diaper before having my babies, and I found it a struggle to keep my house neat and clean back then- so how on earth was I going to take care of three babies, a house, a dog, and a marriage? I had no idea, but somehow, I’m doing it. After giving it some thought, I’ve come up with my list of answers to the question: “How do you do it?”
Organization. I’m by no means a perfectionist, but I certainly have my systems in place. For going places, for bath time (usually done by myself), mealtimes, and just about everything. With young multiples, there are going to be a lot of variables throughout your day, and keeping control over the things that I can, makes me feel a lot less chaotic.
Sacrifice. I had ideas in my head about what it was going to be like after my kids were born; about going back to work, getting back in shape right away, having a nice, neat house; basically, having it all. In reality, I couldn’t bear to leave my kids to go back to work, so I left my job permanently, I’m just now (18 months after having my kids) finding the energy and motivation to work out again, and there are many days where the vacuuming is the last thing to get done, if it gets done at all. But my kids are healthy and happy, and therefore, so am I.
Maternal Instinct. This one came out of nowhere! As I mentioned, I didn’t have much experience with babies prior to having my own. I was, and still am shocked at how much I’ve been able to handle on my own. It’s a beautiful thing.
Support. From my husband, my family, and friends. Like a lot of people, I was never big on taking help from others; I prefer to be able to say I have done something on my own. When there are kids in the picture, all that matters is what’s best for them. I learned quickly that when someone offers to give you a hand, for your own good and the good of your family- TAKE IT! Consider every offer of dinner, cleaning, or babysitting a step forward on the path to your sanity!
Well, this is my answer to the question, so now, we ask all of you…
How do you do it?